Finding the self care practices that will work for ourselves takes a lot of trial and error. We’re all unique individuals who will find solace in different practices. Meditation is an important form of self care that is often overlooked but that has been proven to have powerful healing effects on our body, mind and spirit.
Like any practice, it takes time and effort to integrate meditation into our lives, and there are so many different methods that it can be overwhelming to find the right way to meditate.
What is the right way to meditate?
The most common thing that keeps people from taking up meditation is the preconceived notion of what meditation is and how it should be done. We judge ourselves because we feel that we are doing it wrong or because we think we’re unable to do it at all. The act of making our minds still does not come easy to most individuals — this is completely normal!
What Lady Lorie has discovered through her journey to master meditation is that there is no “right way” to meditate. We will all have our own version of mind stillness and calmness, and the most important thing to remember is that if you are trying, you are doing it right! When Lady Lorie started, the thoughts were like fighter pilots in her mind firing at a target — they swirled around her, poked at her and often triggered her. It was after maintaining consistency in trying to meditate, that she found she was able to truly embrace the practice.
How do I start meditating?
The best way to start meditating is to just sit down and start! You cannot cause yourself any harm by trying, and the more times you practice the easier it will come. We’ve gathered some advice from Lady Lorie and those that she has worked with, that might be helpful in getting you to the point that meditation becomes an act of self care.
- Let go of the perception that mediation is about a calm, still mind. Instead, view it as a practice to get to know your mind. To witness your thoughts and not become caught up in them.
- Start small. Consistency is more important than the length of your session, so try sitting for 5 mins everyday without distractions. Gradually increase your time as you feel comfortable.
- Listen to guided meditations. There are thousands of them available on Youtube, it is about finding a voice that resonates with you. You might even try listening while you fall asleep, to lay the foundation of your meditation practice.
- Try meditating while doing something. There are many different ways to meditate, so if sitting cross legged is not for you, meditate while walking, creating art, gardening, doing yoga, dancing, crocheting or knitting. Any activity that you are 100% present for is meditative.
- Focus on your breathing. Deep belly breaths connect you with your body and help you to be grounded in the present moment.
The whole point of the practice is to witness your thoughts, stories and patterns and to quiet the mind enough to begin listening to your heart. Meditation is closely linked with self care because it allows us to receive our incoming thoughts and process them with a more level head.
The ability to mediate was huge on Lady Lorie’s healing journey. Like many of us, Lady Lorie experienced trauma in her early 30’s and worked with many different therapists and psychiatrists on her journey. She now says that the one thing that helped her the most was developing a mediation practice, because she could practice self care at any time, and with very few resources.
Take the time to sit with yourself, process your thoughts and feelings, breathe through them, and find peace. And most importantly, do not feel discouraged when this does not happen right away — we are all a work in progress, and the best things in life take time and energy to create.
Love and light,
The Mystic Mother